Bible Society of South Africa
Xanthe Hancox

Friendship – Day 2

Traits of true Christian friends

Itekisi yeBhayibhile

UYOHANE 15

13Olona thando lukhulu umntu anokuzithanda ngalo izihlobo zakhe kukuba ubomi bakhe abuncamele zona.

UYOHANE 15:13XHO96Vula kumfundi weBhayibhile

IZAFOBE 18

24Iitshomi ezininzi ziyamvuthulula umntu;

kanti ke sikho sona isihlobo esithembekayo kunomntakwenu.

IZAFOBE 18:24XHO96Vula kumfundi weBhayibhile

IZAFOBE 27

17Iintsimbi ziyalolana;

ngokunjalo ke nezihlobo ziyakhuthazana.

IZAFOBE 27:17XHO96Vula kumfundi weBhayibhile

So, what does a true Christian friendship look like? Let us break it down into traits that are easy to identify.

Christian friends love sacrificially

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13

Jesus is the finest example of a true Christian friend. His love for us is sacrificial, never selfish. He demonstrated it not only through his miracles of healing, but also more fully through the humble service of washing the disciples’ feet, and then, ultimately, when he laid down his life on the cross.

Christian friends trust completely

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24

This proverb reminds us that a true Christian friend is trustworthy and warns us that we should only expect to share complete trust with a few loyal friends. Trusting too easily can lead to ruin, so be careful about putting your confidence in a mere companion. Over time, our true Christian friends will prove their trustworthiness by sticking closer than a brother or sister.

Christian friends give mutual edification

As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17

True Christian friends will build each other up emotionally, spiritually and physically. We receive strength, encouragement and love. We talk, we cry, we listen. However, at times, we also have to say difficult things that our dearest friend needs to hear. Yet, because of the shared trust and acceptance, we are the one person who can influence our friend’s heart, for we know how to deliver the hard message with truth and grace. In turn, a good friend will make you brighter, sharper and more useful to God.

True Christian friendships are rare treasures. They take time to nurture, but in the process, we grow more Christ-like.

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